Honey …It’s Time To Forgive Yourself

We have all been there. That heartbreak caused by a friend, family or lover. The pain is always deep and our mind often gets hazy. I still remember my first heartbreak. My mind was cluttered with so many thoughts and old memories. The memories were not that painful. They were bittersweet. It was the questions that were killing me everyday. Everyday a new question flashed in my mind. I would try and analyse and analyse and over analyse the situation over and over again till I would come up with a satisfying answer. The next night, another question. “Why did this happen to me ?” “Why me?” “What did I do to deserve this?” “Am I so bad?” “I wonder what I did wrong?” “How could I not see this coming?” “I am so stupid!” “I am such a naive gullible fool!” For how long was I going to fool my mind to believe in what I was convinced on believing? To come up with new theories to satiate my soul. I finally gave up and ended up being sad, lonely and ultimately feeling small and worthless. The thing about darkness is that the more you feed it, the bigger it keeps getting till you are completely surrounded by it and it consumes you one day. Of course, heartbreaks are a part of life. Just because we survived once, dosen’t mean that It won’t happen again. We all come out of it, get rid of the demons inside our heads and are ready to become social again, to start trusting again, to start believing again till we get heart broken again. It’s a vicious cycle and no one , however perfect in life can escape it. So, what do we do? How do we make ourselves so strong so that the heartache is lessened during the as I call it “after being betrayed phase“. I just found my mantra and decided to share it with you guys. I say “FORGIVE YOURSELF”!! I know right! Two simple words. You must be thinking , “really” Is that it? I say yes. Try it once. Most of us die within ourselves each day thinking . We forget that we inflict emotional and traumatic pain upon ourselves while the ones who brought this on you might not even be aware of your suffering. So, I say .. forgiving yourself is the essence. It wasn’t your fault that this happened with you, you could have not seen this coming. You did no wrong. Once, you do this , you will reach a state of calmness in your head and the bad thoughts will reduce day by day. You will reach a point where you will be able to forgive the person who harmed you and free yourself from the shackles of sadness while learning from your mistakes too. Trust me on this. Train your mind to follow this practice and then just sit back and wait for the magic to happen on its own😇