We have all been there. That heartbreak caused by a friend, family or lover. The pain is always deep and our mind often gets hazy. I still remember my first heartbreak. My mind was cluttered with so many thoughts and old memories. The memories were not that painful. They were bittersweet. It was the questions that were killing me everyday. Everyday a new question flashed in my mind. I would try and analyse and analyse and over analyse the situation over and over again till I would come up with a satisfying answer. The next night, another question. “Why did this happen to me ?” “Why me?” “What did I do to deserve this?” “Am I so bad?” “I wonder what I did wrong?” “How could I not see this coming?” “I am so stupid!” “I am such a naive gullible fool!” For how long was I going to fool my mind to believe in what I was convinced on believing? To come up with new theories to satiate my soul. I finally gave up and ended up being sad, lonely and ultimately feeling small and worthless. The thing about darkness is that the more you feed it, the bigger it keeps getting till you are completely surrounded by it and it consumes you one day. Of course, heartbreaks are a part of life. Just because we survived once, dosen’t mean that It won’t happen again. We all come out of it, get rid of the demons inside our heads and are ready to become social again, to start trusting again, to start believing again till we get heart broken again. It’s a vicious cycle and no one , however perfect in life can escape it. So, what do we do? How do we make ourselves so strong so that the heartache is lessened during the as I call it “after being betrayed phase“. I just found my mantra and decided to share it with you guys. I say “FORGIVE YOURSELF”!! I know right! Two simple words. You must be thinking , “really” Is that it? I say yes. Try it once. Most of us die within ourselves each day thinking . We forget that we inflict emotional and traumatic pain upon ourselves while the ones who brought this on you might not even be aware of your suffering. So, I say .. forgiving yourself is the essence. It wasn’t your fault that this happened with you, you could have not seen this coming. You did no wrong. Once, you do this , you will reach a state of calmness in your head and the bad thoughts will reduce day by day. You will reach a point where you will be able to forgive the person who harmed you and free yourself from the shackles of sadness while learning from your mistakes too. Trust me on this. Train your mind to follow this practice and then just sit back and wait for the magic to happen on its own😇
Awesome 👌🏻👌🏻
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Thank you sunshine 😇
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Surbi your words are so magical … 😍💞
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Thanks Nav! Appreciate this 🤗💟
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very thoughtful yet beautiful post.
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Thanks a bunch!! I am glad you liked it 🙏🏻😇
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good morning surabi,glad to meet you
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Morning !!! Pleasure meeting you here! Good day 😇
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same to you,which state are you from
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I am from Punjab. How about you ?
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i am from andhra pradesh
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Good to know 😊
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The best I read today
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Really? I am flattered! Thank you so much😇
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Yes.every point is perfect
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Thanks a bunch!!
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Just keep writing like this I would love to read
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That’s the intent 😇
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Hey
Thank you for taking the time to step on over to Love Relaished Ink. It’s wonderful to have your whimsical soul as a new companion on my long and winding road.
From what I have seen of your blog so far, I’ve no doubt you are already finding writing a totally engaging and personally fulfilling experience. I hope the pleasurable company of words will always flow and follow you as you flow following the flow of your flowing path flowing into the wide blue yonder, and flow onwards towards the adventures that follow the flow beyond that…
Best wishes. Take care always in all ways for always.
Namaste
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Wow! I am overwhelmed by what you have written here. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my posts. Writing is definitely a wonderful experience in WordPress. Have a wonderful life. Cheers!!
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Yeah it is and seriously ur writeups are heart capturing ones
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Thank you so much! I am glad you liked them! 😇🙏🏻
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Your most welcome surbani 😊
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😇
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Helpful 😊
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Thank you !!
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Motivating!!
“e forget that we inflict emotional and traumatic pain upon ourselves while the ones who brought this on you might not even be aware of your suffering. ” This is so true!!!! I hate this fact!! 🙅🙅 It’s all about making your heart strong, controlling your emotions and of course learning to forgive yourself!! We need more such positive posts!!
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I know right. It’s of immense importance to not forget our self worth when people put us down in any situation. Thanks a ton for reading this post!
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Yes! Thanks for the post!
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Really lovely post, useful too
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Thank you so much !! 🤓
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I understand that darkness leads to realisation but if ones heartbroken due to someone’s else inability to see the good in you, it’s not right to blame yourself but instead learn the lesson and move on ..
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Right, we should be kind to ourselves!
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Always 😇
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each point perfect
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Thank you 😇
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I really like what I am reading from you.
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Thanks a bunch 🙏🏻😇
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Well written!! Kudos!
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Thanks a ton 😀
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Beautifully written.
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Thanks much 😇
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I agree. I liked and I enjoyed your words and thoughts. My grandfather told me often. Make a mistake. Learn from it and don’t repeat it.
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Thank you so much! I am glad you could relate 😇
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I did and you are welcome.
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When your heart wants to cry but your mind doesn’t let you😭😭 beautiful
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Thanks a ton 😇
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Such sweet, tender and wise words. Awesome write. Thank you.
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Thanks a ton! Really appreciate this 😊
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